Giving a Woman Orgasms -
3 Things That Kill A Female Orgasm Dead

By Jay Mathis:

  Many men seem to believe they are god's gift to women. Modern day Don Juans, and masters of the Kama Sutra – all rolled into one super-fit package of raging testosterone; almost any woman will tell you that sitting at home watching porno flicks, perusing 'informational' web-sites, and eloquently  discussing the merits of doggy style versus missionary over burgers and beer does not a consummate lover make.

The fact is, when it comes to lovin', most men do not even have a clue of what NOT to do, let alone how to lead their attempted  conquest from fully clothed and standoffish to wet and whimpering.  

No matter how practiced you are in the art of lovemaking, there are some things that need to be deleted from the 'ol repertoire before you can turn any woman into a trembling mess.

              Timidity

     Now, I am not advising you to become a violent lover, but I have never met a woman who doesn't want to be thrown up against the elevator wall and kissed like there is no such thing as the word stop.

Don't scare her, but let it be known that you want her. Badly. Right Now. If there is one thing that all women get off on, it's being wanted.

In fact, most women will forgive a little bit of off-limits exploration if they think that you are so caught up in their unbelievable sexiness that you simply can't help yourself. And who knows, maybe she wants to attempt moves that are still illegal in most southern states, but is too shy to ask for them. Remember,  enthusiasm is never a bad thing.

           Robotic Repetition

   You know how it goes, we've all been there (over and over again). You have been sleeping with the same woman for a little while, and it has become so practiced that you have stopped thinking.

Thoughtlessness is not the same thing as blissfulness. Most men get to know a women's body and the routine is set: from the lips, to the tits, to the ass, to the clit. Or maybe - when you are feeling a little extra creative – you throw in a little bit neck nibbling, or finger sucking.  

Whoa, hold me back. Ok, men, your woman does not expect you to buy a new expensive toy or edible oil for each time  you want to get down, but her eyes are going to start rolling back in her head for reasons other than ultimate passion if you don't at least attempt to change it up every once in awhile. . . End the robotic repetition, and you will both be happy.

               Pressure

Apparently it's simple to get the average man off - well, gentlemen, I apologize for my half of the race – but it is simply not going to happen for us all of the time.

An orgasm is a complicated process for a woman, sometimes she will get there and sometimes she won't.

The one thing that is going to intensify the problem:  making her feel like she has failed if she does not reach that pinnacle of pleasure.

It may make you feel like less of a man when your suave moves don't push her over the edge, but give her a break, and don't always bring up this problem as a precursor to sex.

If you want to talk to her about what she likes and dislikes, bring it up before the onslaught of foreplay.
Nothing is going to turn her off faster than remembering when she couldn't get off.  

I know how many articles exist that tell you to ask her what she wants; but, let's face it, if this is a recurring problem for her – she may not know how to get herself off either. If you must ask her how to 'do her' make it glib, flirty, and sexy. Tell her how much she turns you on, and make her believe it.  Then get to work discovering the solution together.
                                                 Getting Her There…

   So, gentlemen, if you want to live up to every women's fantasy of the ideal lover, you need to remember  these three major moves to avoid:

Timidity, repetition, and pressure. And if you replace these sexually destructive habits with enthusiasm, spontaneity, and understanding almost any woman will forgive your lack of sexual prowess and show you how it's done.  

And isn't that what it's all about?

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