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5 Things You Can Do To Last Longer in Bed |
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Q: Is endurance an issue for most guys? I find that when I get overly turned on I ‘pop-off’ too quickly. It’s extremely embarrassing for me, especially with my current girlfriend of six months. She says it’s no big deal, that she doesn’t mind, but if it’s a non-issue for her, why do I feel so mortified? Can you suggest some tips for lasting longer in bed? I really want to rock her world, but that’s hard to do when I’m ready for post coital nap-time before she’s even finished undressing. HAALP!! ANSWER: Well, generally speaking, cumming too soon is not ideal. It prevents her from ‘getting-off’ and certainly rules out the potential for multiple orgasms. If you’re with a long term partner, she may be flattered you still find her so sexy you can’t contain yourself. (But flattery will become frustration pretty quickly if your habit persists.) So, as requested, here are the TOP FIVE ways for men to last longer in bed… 1. Masturbation Marathon Just as you would run more often than usual while training for a marathon, you must cum more frequently to increase sexual endurance. Your ability to go the distance won’t improve by avoiding sex because you’re ashamed or by simply engaging in quickies hoping she’ll hurry up and orgasm because you’re barely holding on. Studies have shown the more often men masturbate, the longer they last in bed. It’s like beer drinking. Guzzle twelve beers a day for a couple of months and chances are your tolerance will be significantly higher than two-can Dan nursing a Bud Lite over in the corner. The other bonus to masturbating, (aside from the obvious) is, it allows you to experiment. You’re alone, there’s no one watching. You can try a handful of different techniques and see what works for you without feeling self conscious or weird. 2. The Attentive Lover Rather than getting right down to business and shagging her silly, treat your woman like a goddess. Drink from her fountain, suckle her bounty, and pay attention to her every hill, valley, and sexy crevasse, ensuring not a single inch of skin is left unturned. Focusing on her pleasure initially like this does a few things. It keeps poncho at bay longer (thus increasing your lasting time) and gets her so hot and bothered that by the time you go for penetration, she’s already entered the final sprint phase of the O race. (Women don’t care how they get to O town, as long as you give them a ride.) This strategy doesn’t actually solve your problem, but it helps in a pinch to save you from the embarrassment of performing like a fourteen-year-old virgin at band camp. 3. Game Time While you’re doing the horizontal mambo, focus your mind on something other than sex. Replay last night’s football game in your head; try and silently name all the Vancouver Canucks in alphabetical order. If you’re not a big sports fan, see if you can brainstorm five new stock options in which you’d like to consider investing and determine your potential dividends over the next five years. This might sound strange, but premature ejaculation is more a malady of the mind than the penis. You get yourself so worked up and overwhelmed in your head that your body reacts involuntarily by exploding. If you take control over your thoughts and turn down the heat by mulling over mundane data like stocks, football, or even a grocery list, (the same things you used in high school to get rid of the massive boner your young, sexy math teacher caused during a long division lesson), you’ll be able to stay in the game long enough to see her go wild. It doesn’t sound as fun, I know, but it’ll help immensely on your way to becoming a regular Ron Jeremy- minus the cheese factor and tacky underwear. 4. Half-Time Breather If you feel yourself getting too heated too fast, just stop for a minute. Halt the action and take a few slow, deep breaths. Close your eyes, refocus your attention, and contract and release your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle a few times. (This is the muscle that lets you release or hold in urine.) By paying close attention to this muscle, you will be able to gain hold over it and prevent yourself from cumming prematurely. It will also allow your blood to re-circulate, cooling you down just enough to stay in the game for the second half. 5. Tantric Sex Lastly, becoming acquainted with tantric sex and philosophy is the single best way to becoming king of endurance. This simultaneously sexual and spiritual act brings lovers closer together on every level, allows them both the excitement of lasting way longer as they practice, and yields an infinitely more powerful, outta this world orgasm. Originating in India, this technique allows the releasing of inhibitions, encourages experimentation and play, and offers an entirely new and incredible experience for all who try it. Hope these suggestions help you on your way to becoming the world’s longest lasting lover. Good luck! |
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