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She Used to Orgasm Easily
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Here's a Q and A I had a while back with a female subscriber. If your woman was easy to get off and isn't any more, this can give you some insight. Question: Just recently I’ve been having trouble achieving orgasm I’ve always been the kind of girl lucky enough to enjoy multiple orgasms in any one sex session- this is something my boyfriend of three years particularly loves about our love life. But just in the last six months or so, I’ve been completely unable to cum. This started around the same time I began taking antidepressants for a post-traumatic- stress-related depression. Could these two things be connected? And what would you suggest I try to rectify the situation? It’s very frustrating for me. Can you give me some ideas? ANSWER: First of all, the more you worry about this, the harder it’ll become. Your anti depressants (or the depression itself from which you are currently suffering) could very well be the cause of this small dysfunction. Ninety percent of patients on regular doses of anti depressants report a significant decrease in sex drive, an inability to orgasm, and overall feelings of apathy and sometimes even repulsion to sex in general.
So don’t worry. But try to remember that during this period of medical treatment, you can’t put pressure on yourself or force an orgasm to happen. The moment you make the orgasm the main focus of your sex session, you will have psyched yourself out entirely and made it that much more impossible. Relax! Make a conscious mental note to yourself that it’s ok if you don’t orgasm- sex is fun in and of itself. And that will be your first step towards resolving this temporary delay in sexual bliss. In the meantime, the sooner you can find an alternative solution to the pills the better, but make sure you consult your doctor before making any changes to your medication regime. It’s dangerous to go off SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) on your own. One more important aspect of all this is to understand that it’s not your fault. You are not responsible for this ‘problem’, and neither is your partner. Be sure to reassure him too. Some partners in this situation will tend to feel defeated, or insecure about how sexy you find them. They feel that you are not turned on if you can no longer reach orgasm. Ensure your partner it’s the medication causing it, and then consult your physician about finding an alternate plan for getting you well. Keeping the lines of communication open between the two of you will be essential to maintaining a good relationship through this difficult time. Good luck! And I hope you feel better soon! |
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